A few months ago I had the privilege of being asked to write a review for a book by Shannon Upton entitled, Building Your Home: A Faithful Mom’s Guide to Organizing Home and Family.
I love a good book on organization. I feel like it has been my life’s goal since my first born took his first step and started mixing things up! Five children later I’m hopelessly entangled in the never-ending endeavor of organization.
Prior to having my sweeties I was a conference planner, a profession that requires a high level of organization. Now, I can’t seem to even give the illusion of being organized.
I have read so many organizing books that it’s highly likely I’ve read almost every one out there! And I’ve tried many of the techniques involved. Most recently I went through all my clothes as directed and made instant decisions. It was so effective that I can fit every season of my wardrobe in one small closet and my dresser. The only down side is I find I have very few things to wear! On top of that, I did not, as the book suggested, thank my clothes for their service to me. Apparently, I am a very ungrateful clothes wearer!
But none of these books have been quite as inspiring as this one. This one has made me think…made me what to be what Shannon Upton calls a “Jesus Mom.”
One of the first things she wrote that grabbed me and made me want to sit down for tea with her was her story of dealing with postpartum depression (PPAD). She tells how, during her struggle, someone shared their story of dealing with PPAD. This is what she says, “I knew she was trying to help me feel better by letting me know that I wasn’t alone, but all it did was make my burden seem heavier-more real somehow. She was bringing up feelings that I was trying so hard to keep under control.”
I instantly felt connected to her because I have had those moments, those interactions. I loved her honestly.
Throughout her book, Shannon shares openly about her life while encouraging us to reevaluate and find peace in our own. I love that she didn’t present herself as the perfect homemaker, but as someone working through all of life’s complexities and busyness…sharing the successes and struggles along the way.
Her book is about choosing to focus on Jesus first, to clear out the spiritual clutter of our lives. “The point isn’t ‘having it all’ or even having it all together – it’s settling our spirits so we can dwell in the Lord’s peace” (p. 15). Peace that isn’t based on perfection, but on building our homes in a way that will bring peace to our families.
Shannon warns against giving ourselves more spiritual clutter by stressing about getting organized. Putting pressure on ourselves only takes away the peace we are hoping to choose daily.
|There’s no pressure here, no hurry. Don’t go giving yourselves even more spiritual clutter over “getting organized.” In fact, I don’t even like that phrase. It implies that “organized” is a place we can get to, a thing we can achieve, but it’s not.
Your home isn’t a problem to solve, it’s a set of systems to be managed. As a Jesus Mom, you don’t want to organize your household so you can “feel at peace.” Instead, you can choose to feel peaceful while you organize.” (p. 25)
What a great idea! Choosing peace. God’s been encouraging me to choose peace a lot lately.
I’m choosing it with varying degrees of success, but success nonetheless.
What I took from this book was that managing my home is about creating a peaceful refuge for my family that exudes Christlikness. My goal is for my home to provide me with opportunities to love the Lord well, to love my family well, and to love others well.
Shannon recommends starting with prayer. What a wonderful way to begin – praying over our home.
Dedicating it to the Lord. Asking for wisdom as we begin the process of organization. Asking for a godly perspective and a spirit of contentment. Giving thanks for all the blessings.
Shannon provides some practical advice on the process and throughout encourages, inspires, and entertains with her engaging writing style. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book and have already begun the processes Shannon recommends.
I’m taking my time and praying my way through my home. And God willing, my home will be a place of ministry, not only to my family, but to my friends, neighbors, and acquaintances.