School Supplies and A Serious Lack of Sanity
I hope you enjoy but don’t really identify with this blog! At least the beginning!
I’m praying that I will get better about making decisions but boy oh boy do I struggle. God keeps faithfully meeting me in all my anxious indecisive thinking and loving me out of it! So grateful!
Blessings,
Sue
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Sue, you had me in stitches with this. Love the image of the overabundance of paper and pencils…we have stacks of notebooks that you can eat off of. Anxiety and worry…I can so relate! Decisions, decisions…some days (on those life-changing, big ones) I seriously consider making my own Urim and Thummim (and if I actually knew the 22 characters of the Hebrew alphabet, I might) – cast the lots and roll with the result – no pressure, it’s all on Him. Then again, He’d probably have them all come out the same, and I’d be back to square one…Trust. 🙂 The Bible verses are perfect and speak to my situation as well. Glad you got back to square one at the end. So will I.
Peace of Christ be with you,
Danny
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Dear Sue,
I just read your book and it’s taken me a while to work up the courage to write to you. I bookmarked your blog after I read your book so that I could log on when I need encouragement…..
I wanted to thank you for writing what you did. I was married to a minister for ten years. He had an affair with his assistant. And while I wanted to work on the issues, he just wanted out. The difference is that I couldn’t make it public because I feared he would lose his job and the ability to support me and my two children. I was so scared! So he left quietly and I let him. And no one at church came to help me or support me. In fact, I stopped being in contact with them and have very few friends now. I am just so lonely and sad all the time. Everything is a struggle and I fear I will never be happy again. Plus, I hate being divorced. Especially in a church setting that is so family-oriented. I look at couples and miss having a partner and friend. I can’t quite picture anyone ever loving me again. Ugh….
Anyway, all my friends are married. I have no single friends, but somehow I feel as if you are a friend. And I just thought I’d write to say that….You inspire me and your book helped me see that I am not the only christian woman who has had divorce heaped on her plate when she didn’t as for it….I will keep you in my prayers that we both find happiness again.
Peace,
xoxo
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M-
I’ve been trolling in this site after reading Susan’s book, as well, but haven’t posted anything until now. I read your comment and it immediately touched my heart. I, too,am going through a painful divorce. Married for 20 years, I thought we were going to be fine. Literally, one day I’m married raising 4 kids with my husband and the next day, he’s moved out leaving me with 4 broken hearted children to console. It felt like a storm had swept into my life leaving nothing but destruction in it’s wake, and I had no support in place to deal with it. It’s been almost a year, and I still have problems processing what happened. I feel for you, especially, because I can relate to feeling alone. Most of my friends I met through my husbands job, and he is friends with their husbands. Those “friends” have been very distant and I feel as though I’m going through this without any support. I spent my first Christmas without my children in the fetal position, crying on my bed, while my husband took our children to our best friends’ house to celebrate. We had been best friends for 15 years, and I was actually in the delivery room when her daughter was born because our husbands were on an army deployment. I haven’t spoken to her since Christmas, and that is another deep sense of loss for me, on top of the divorce. We moved to the east coast for my husband’s job, leaving all of my family in the southwest. I am truly alone in this. I relate to your loneliness and feelings of isolation. Don’t give up! I’ve had to be very proactive with seeking out social opportunities. I’ve joined several social groups and been more adventurous in asking people if they would like to go to dinner or to a movie. I even asked a couple of acquaintances at school if they’d like to go on a white water rafting trip, and we had a blast! I haven’t dated, nor do I intend to anytime soon. I’ve actually discovered through all of this that it’s OK to be me for a while, without any pressure of a relationship. It’s very uncomfortable at first, but getting easier every day. My bed, which felt too big and lonely after my husband left, is now a relaxing place for me to sprawl out and get a good night’s sleep. I can also leave the lamp on and read a book without anyone nagging me. I’m truly the captain of my own ship. I’ve gone to nursing school and graduate in December. My life is completely different now. Not what I asked for, or wanted, but I make an effort every day to try to make the most of this “do over” that was forced upon me. I pray you will find the strength to embrace your new life and try to find the opportunities that lie ahead. Life is truly yours for the taking, you just have to find the courage to go for it. A good therapist is invaluable! Keep praying, and trusting that in the end, He is going to be able to get you through this. I will be keeping you in my prayers.
Anna
P.S. I hope you found a new church!
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Dear M,
I feel much the same as you do. My husband left suddenly, with no attempt to work on our marriage whatsoever. Yet he still wants to be an involved father, so he’s taking the kids 40% of the time. I don’t believe in, or agree with divorce, yet here I am. My friends have been supportive, but they’re still at home with their husbands and families while I’m at home alone.
I found this blog after Sue appeared on a Focus on the Family broadcast and I also feel like I’ve found some “kindred spirits” here who can understand what I’m going through.
I tried finding a divorce support group in my area but I can’t find one that meets at a time when I can go. So I use websites like this as my mini-support group. I hope you will do the same.
Danny, who wrote the comment above yours also writes an excellent blog that I found through this one. He has a lot of interesting posts there too which I have found to be helpful.
I’ve only been separated for less than 6 months. It’s all still so overwhelming and painful for me. I can totally identify with what yo’re saying about feeling sad and alone all the time. That’s exactly how I feel too. I feel like I don’t have any worth anymore and like no one can ever love me again. So much of what you wrote really resonated with me so I felt I should respond. I don’t know where you live, I’m in Ottawa, Canada. Although I’m sure many miles separate us, I want you to know you’re not the only one who feels the way you do. I don’t know if it helps you or not, but if you’d like to talk some more, I’d be happy to do that. God bless you.
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