Category: Divorce Survival

  • A Near Perfect Day

    It was a near perfect day. I was very tired the night before and I didn’t set my alarm. After all, I have two alarm clocks ages 6 and 7.  They are relentless in their early morning wake ups.  And although, they did wake me up briefly,  they just went and played.  Beautiful! I woke…

  • Are You Giving UP?

      I was talking with a friend lately about how it feels like for the past 5+ years God has asked me to give up A LOT! Sometimes it feels like all I’m doing is giving up people, things, hopes, and dreams… Sometimes it has felt unbearable and sometimes it has been relatively easy. Sometimes…

  • What Happens Afterwards?

    It’s been a weird week or so.  Do you know what I mean? I can’t put my finger on it, but it’s been a little off. I think I know part of the reason and it’s quite surprising to me.  Particularly because I thought I was kinda past all this stuff. You know all healed…

  • When You’ve Got Nothing Left to Give…and need some help and some hope

      About three months ago I began a program to get my teaching license and eventually my Masters in Education.  At the time it seemed like a really good thing…even though I don’t have the money to pay for the program nor is the time to do it clearly evident.  In fact when I was interviewing with…

  • I Should Have Hugged Her

             I was sitting here just finishing up my quiet time and it struck me. I should have hugged her. My 7-year old broke her toe last week.  We are gimpy together…same foot even! It would be comical if it weren’t so pathetic. She won’t let me take a picture of our…

  • Having a Difficult Day…

    I had a really difficult day recently. I’m not sure why but I reverted back to being very annoyed by my ex-husband. My youngest daughters had games that day and my oldest daughter invited him to sit with us – which is a very normal thing – but that day I could barely stand it.…

  • What’s Your Choice?

    This past weekend my youngest daughters started playing basketball with a local Christian program.  It’s such fun to see them playing.  They’ve never played before and at times it looked like a cross between football, soccer, rugby, and wrestling.  I was laughing a lot.  But another feeling crept in as I sat in that gymnasium. I…

  • Do You Have Any Needles or Grapes?

    Tonight we dragged our tree out…well, I should say my oldest son and his friend dragged it out…leaving a trail of needles and water behind. Contributing to the messiness of my floor. Today my floor has been an issue. A neighbor stopped by unexpectedly.  As we stood in my kitchen all I could think about…

  • No 3-2-1…Our Missing 3 Seconds

    For the past several years my kids and I have celebrated New Year’s Eve with snacks, sparkling cider, and movies.  We always have a great time hanging out together and New Year’s Eve is no different! This past year (all of 3 days ago!) we rang in the New Year in the same way.  Although…

  • Do You Transition Well?

    It’s been five years and still I struggle with transitions. I would have thought by now there’d be no problem whatsoever when my ex-husband picked up our children. And yet…there is There is no conflict between him and me…no issues of arguing or glaring or anything…it’s just the transition. It’s not like I even think…